What to Do When You Know Something Bad Is Going to Happen

"Lisa" , a "social sciences enthusiast" and Mom of iii grown kids, writes from personal experience/exposure and/or past inquiry

L. Warren, 2011

It Isn't Necessarily Something of a Paranormal Nature

About of the time, when you lot have a feeling that something bad is going to happen, it is acquired by one of iii things:

i. In that location is something that yous know is going on that has the potential of resulting in something bad happening; or else is a matter of increasingly defying the odds of having something bad happen.

Just as we often option up "subtle vibes" from coming together new people, we oftentimes option upwardly (without always realizing information technology) similar subtle vibes about ourselves and whatsoever number of situations. My nigh memorable example is that when I was expecting one of my babies I "just felt like" the babe would be born early. There was no outward reason to think that, and the physician didn't take me seriously when I told him I "just had a feeling" the baby would arrive as well early. Once I reached v months along I had dreams most having a tiny, tiny, baby. (In one dream, the tiny baby was sitting happily in a crib, so they weren't horrible dreams.) On the get-go evening of the childbirth course the teacher asked who thought they may not become the whole six weeks. My manus just seemed to go up without my really having any reason to raise information technology. The class was to see for a 2nd time the following week. I was non there. Instead, I was delivering my baby at 34 weeks.

The baby was born breech, and it was discovered that he had been in an odd position. I had always known that my "baby bump" was kind of off to the side; and I had been far more than uncomfortable than anyone should be so early in the pregnancy. The bespeak is I was probably getting those "vibes" that something was "off" with the pregnancy, even though all seemed generally normal. With the adjacent pregnancy I recognized the absence of feeling "off".

There are any number of those kind of "vibes" we tin option upwards on when there's a state of affairs that is "sending them". The "carefree" person who knows he has several fire hazards in his abode may non really pay much attention to the run a risk, but somewhere in the back of his mind he may know he's living a little dangerously. Some who feels his life is out of control may pick up on "vibes" that tell him something bad is going to happen.

ii. You may exist peculiarly stressed out and anxious (and possibly suffering from low, as well).

With regard to stress and anxiety, when we're under stress or anxiety we start to live "nether the influence" of "stress chemicals" and the changes in our bodies that occur when we're living under stress. We aren't are "usual calm selves", and then that, alone, makes us feel more mostly nervous (needless to say). Depending on the number of causes of stress, and the severeity of stress/distress, we get tin can to a point where nosotros don't just feel uncertain or ungrounded, we tin can start to get into the "what's-going-to-happen-next" kind of thinking.

Going through recent (or fairly recent) grief or serious loss; or going through too much grief or serious loss in also short a menstruation of fourth dimension; tin contribute to that kind of thinking. Even when we think grief or loss occurred "a while ago" there are times when nosotros underestimate how long it takes to fully bounciness back from such things.

A friend in one case described the way life's troubles come like this: She said troubles tin exist like frosting on a cake. Some people tin can have a thin layer spread over the whole cake (every bit when many, many, smaller troubles keep occurring over a long menses of time); or they can have "one, giant, lump dumped in one spot on the block" (as when some extremely devastating loss occurs). In both types of situations a person can develop that sense that life will come at him from out of the blue and "boot him in the head" once again. We larn from our experiences, and sometimes we learn that bad things come at us "out of the blue". Sometimes, also, we over-learn that difficult lesson and can accept a hard time finding our way dorsum to a more appropriate, realistic, sense of well-being.

3. Some people, for whom everything in life is more often than not good, develop a worry that the odds of having something bad happen volition inevitably turn confronting them. Depending on the person and his experiences, this worry can be either relatively minor or, instead, an actual fear.

In general, this kind of thought is something that doesn't carp most people much, even if it has occurred to them and they've had to tuck it in the back of their minds. Some people, however, are plagued past more than agonizing degrees of this kind of thinking. This kind of thinking, though, is usually more "open" than that feeling people sometimes become that something bad is going to happen, even though they don't quite know what it may be.

Needless to say, anyone plagued past too many worrisome thoughts or feelings should consider seeking professional assist. Ofttimes, however, by being aware of how "spooky" thoughts can occur as a result of that subtle awareness that we (or people close to u.s.) are inviting disaster, or as a event of living with a generally "unsettled" feeling as a upshot of stress/distress; nosotros tin can ameliorate understand the roots of those "spooky" thoughts and see them for what they truly are.

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Shahbaz on November 29, 2010:

Thanx again for understanding...i wanted to say that its not virtually age..crusade i have seen and heard enough bad news and i used to recall similar the way you think and its man nature...i empathise that!!!...and above all my father is a pshychiatrist and then you can imagine what i ahve seen in my life...and since my father is a pshychiatrist information technology is also the worst part...yous can understand why..anyways thnx again..and dont green-eyed this hot whether cause at that place is nothing to envy...its not hot its very hot!!!...

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on November 29, 2010:

Shahbaz, I neglected to say earlier, too, that I'm sad to know you're friend has something like a brain tumor, and that your other friend's female parent passed abroad. I do know that if plenty of those bad things commencement showing up, it tin also be natural to starting time wondering, "What next?"

It tin be scary, no matter who, or how former, someone is to accept strange physical symptoms. If not scary, then at least unsettling. Information technology DOES brand u.s. wonder, "What on Earth is this?" I accept a friend who has oft had one kind of strange symptom or another, and he'southward been diagnosed with things like anemia and Vitamin D deficiency as explanations for some of them (at i time or another).

Accept care. Hopefully, it's nothing and it's all only coincidence. (By the way, I envy your hot weather right now. We're just starting our Winter weather here, and I pretty much hate it. :) )

Shahbaz on November 29, 2010:

Starting time of all Thank you a lot Lisa. It actually helped me in understanding that may be its but stress, low or high claret saccharide..or may be i am not old enough to handle the ugly truth of life..atleast till the next time i am releved..thanx again...

But over again..i live in India...and co-ordinate to docs reports my ex-girlfrnds tumor started growing just weeks before the day i brutal ill...As i have said i live in India...and here all-time frnd means Brother nd some times more thn a brother...so she is like my sis...and near that death...may be you are correct may be its just "in my life"...but merely minutes earlier this terrible news..i told my frnd that something bad is going to happen..and i estimate this mail service is merely about having that foreign feeling information technology doesnt get like "When you take a bad feeling that something is going to happen IN YOUR LIFE"...it goes like the other way...its simply virtually that strange feeling...and about physical sensations..hhmmmm...its hot hither in India...so sweater no, shirt no..merely i can follow up on wht i hv eaten or drank..or may be i should become to a docter and take a complete bank check up and then come back to you..y'all are correct i should not panic...may be its only low or high claret sugar...anyways cheers for your business..take good care of yourself...

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on November 29, 2010:

Shahbaz, I don't retrieve anyone (myself, included) tin tell you (with 100% certainty) what the feeling you've gotten is. Some people are the kind who presume at that place's some medical/scientific explanation. Others would feel certain that the feeling you got was more than than coincidence. Personally, I'k someone who looks for a scientific caption to this kind of thing. Can I tell you lot with 100% certainty that I'thou correct? No. Just as people who put "spooky" reasons on having something similar this occur cannot, truly, exist certain well-nigh what they would believe this is; neither can I, fifty-fifty if my guess tends to lean more than toward the "scientific explanation" direction.

The fact that you got that feeling that something bad is going to happen could very well take been caused past reasons like to those described in the Hub higher up.

What your post made me wonder, though, is whether you had the physical symptoms you didn't have an caption for, and whether you've "looked for" reason to associate the experiences with that "something bad". For example, one the one 24-hour interval you first mentioned, there were two unrelated things. I thing is ex-girlfriend's encephalon tumor, only if you recollect near that, the tumor had "already happened" before anyone got the news. Also, I don't know how old/young you are, but those of us who take lived more than a few decades of adult life could pretty much write an book-length list of how often we've heard bad news about someone else (including people from our past). Then, the matter with your friend's sister getting a divorce wouldn't even strike someone else (like me) as all that "personally bad" a thing for you. I don't mean to underestimate how you may experience about your friend's sister's divorce; merely something to ask if how close does someone need to exist to you in order for you to consider "something bad happening" in your life? My thinking is something like a divorce (never a pleasant thing, of class) for my friend's sis really isn't in "my life". Information technology's more than "in my life" than, say, a stranger'south bad news, I suppose. Where would you, though, draw a line between when something is "in your life" (as compared to being "someone else's bad news"). As well, where, for you lot, is the line between "something bad happening" and "the usual, run-of-the-factory, bad news about someone else"? The example I gave above from my own life involved having my best friend killed, having my own set of substantial-plenty injuries, and feeling every bit if my life was turned upside. To me, that'due south a "bad thing happening" in my ain life. The expiry of someone else'south mother that I'thousand not all that close to anyway doesn't "authorize" for me.

If you're immature, those incidents of other people's bad news may have struck yous a petty more than as "personal", considering mayhap you haven't lived long enough to have heard plenty bad news from enough people you know. I take no uncertainty that hearing news about your ex-girlfriend's brain tumor was upsetting and shocking for you, and it certainly "qualifies" as a "large matter" and a "bad thing". Still, there's that fact that she had the tumor before anyone knew about information technology.

I'k just wondering if your state of affairs is a matter of having the odd physical experiences (which could have had you feeling bad anyway), and then connecting things you would take heard about considering of when you heard about them. Lots of times we hear all kinds of atrocious news, or have bad things happen to us, personally, without whatever strange feelings ahead of time (or simply before). Nosotros're more probable to notice if we've had "some weird feeling" and and then heard nigh something bad.

As far as the concrete sensations go, it could accept been (and might be once again) annihilation from a rise in body temperature because you lot wore a detail sweater or shirt, or the heat was on higher that twenty-four hour period; to something similar depression or high claret carbohydrate or some other metabolism "off-ness" related to something you ate, drank, or didn't consume or drink.

Sometimes nosotros may have something similar the beginnings of a head common cold that our torso fights off. If you had a temporary fever or feeling of all of a sudden being hot, maybe it bothered/worried you plenty to brand you wonder why you had that, and there'south at least the chance you lot got yourself into that frame-of-heed that was feeling unsettled and uncertain and wondering why this happened.

Apparently (and here's a link that refers to it: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/interactive/discussion/... if you're stressed and/or tired you lot may take a rising in body temperature.

I approximate I'd propose you get over whether you've been sleeping correct, eating right (or eating and drinking the same stuff you always do), and even what whether you've got a new seater or jacket you've been wearing. If you don't experience well (and can't figure out why) again, think nearly seeing a doctor to run across if you may have some kind of infection (or at least if the doctor can suggest possible reasons for what goes on).

My personal opinion is (and, again, I can't 100% guarantee I'k right, merely nobody who would disagree with me can guarantee that it'southward anything "spooky" either) the only thing that should at all brand you lot experience nervous or scared about the concrete symptoms might exist a matter of whether yous have some medical condition that needs to be addressed. Keep in mind, though, that every once in awhile we feel sick for no apparent reason and information technology passes without our always really identifying the reason.

To exist honest, even if I tin imagine myself thinking the style the "spookier-minded" people may think, the stuff yous've described just doesn't, to me, wait "spooky enough" or related plenty to the other stuff to fifty-fifty wonder if information technology's anything "spooky".

I recollect there's at to the lowest degree the take chances you lot're borrowing other people'south "bad things" and using them to "confirm" that the unusual physical feelings you experienced were more than something like depression blood sugar or tiredness. I wouldn't be surprised, either, if you're a young person for whom hearing any serious bad news at all my be relatively a new matter in your life. That'southward not meant as an insult, or to be cavalier. There'southward a phase of life in a lot of immature people's lives (at least those who haven't dealt with much bad stuff happening around them) when the problems of so many people around us get-go to seem more serious, and when we're suddenly more aware of all the rotten stuff that can happen to people nosotros know.

Shahbaz Ahmed Azmi on November 29, 2010:

Just 15 days back, when i was in my office, suddenly i started feeling that i am ill. My trunk temprature rised unbleviebly. So i went dorsum home took some pills only nothiing worked. At this moment for the first time i had this feeling that something bad is gonna happen. i went to sleep with this feeling and when i woke upwardly i was completely fine. I mean i felt a little weak but temprature reading was normal but that feeling was withal at that place.After two days, when i was heading towards my hometown i came to know that my ex-girlfriend is suffering from brain tumor and her family and she found it out only ii days back the twenty-four hour period i fell ill.When i reached my home i came to know that my all-time friend's sister is going through divorce.And she received the divorce paper on the very same mean solar day when i cruel ill.Today after two weeks (29-11-10) i once again felt the same fashion. Just subsequently 10 minutes of this feeling i came to know that my skilful friends mother is no more. Tin can anybody tell me what is this feeling...whats incorrect with me..its kinda scary...

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on August 17, 2010:

Eiddwen, I read the Hub y'all mentioned. I didn't comment withal, because, needless to say, the nature of the Hub requires some idea earlier commenting. I'll exist honest. The situation with your girl makes me feel that there's isn't anything "worthy of the loss" that I can appropriately say.

Then once more, having a family member who lost her young child, I too know that other people's not knowing what to say can pb mothers (or fathers) to feel isolated as a effect of that.

cindyine, I'm guessing it either makes you cracking at reading gut instincts, a major pessimist, or else - as you suggest - psychic. :)

Cindy Vine from Cape Town on Baronial 17, 2010:

Sometimes I get a bad feeling something is going to happen, and normally I'g right. Does that make me sort of psychic?

Eiddwen from Wales on Baronial 17, 2010:

Thank you for the kind words and I really do enjoy your hubs. I'grand on my 4th hub at the moment , actually 4th and 5th. My first hub called 'From This Moment On' is about how i clung on to doing something positive later both tragedies. You lot've got then many hubs and so far they are all brilliant and I'm certain they volition keep to be so. Accept care

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on Baronial 17, 2010:

Eiddwen, I'thousand then lamentable to know you lot've lost your daughter (as well as having gone through those other things); and, again, thank you for such kind words.

After I decided to turn my long comment about that vague sense that something bad was going to happen, and subsequently it turned long enough to make it a story, I kept writing and turned it into a story that (really) is way to long for HubPages. And yet, practise I decide not to post it? No. Why? Because now it's all written - why waste matter it.. LOL

Anyway, I don't know if anyone volition ever want to be bothered reading it, and I don't expect anyone to. I gauge, maybe, I wrote it considering I think it'southward what helped me empathise more about those "looming clouds" nosotros tin sometimes sense. Or else, maybe, I but wrote it because it seemed like time.

Eiddwen from Wales on August 17, 2010:

How-do-you-do please carry on this is so interesting! I'm going to be totally honest here and there have been times when my senses have been correct when I.ve had that awful sense of foreboding that something bad is going to happen. For a good couple of years before I lost my sister in 1999 I did accept these feelings but then again due to her mental wellness bug Perchance that answers that, I'm non sure! And so again a good couple of years earlier I lost my beautiful youngest daughter in 2009 I again had these feelings but then again my daughter was into drugs and alcohol corruption then maybe this explains these thoughts. I personally suffered and so much corruption from the age of five or maybe younger and married a tearing and calumniating homo. Stayed with him for 26 yrs until my sis died and have since met my brilliant partner and weve been together now for 5 years and our beloved has grown stronger and stronger and I feel so lucky now. Some people never experience such happiness and my heart goes out to them!! Please bear on with your story and I recall you lot articles are brilliant . I've but been on HB for simply over a week but I'm so glad I joined.

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on August 16, 2010:

Eiddwen, give thanks you. I recall that gut instinct you mention may exist (at least in my own experience) the main cause of that vague sense something bad (or, as in the case of my premie baby, worrisome/frightening) is going to happen. My response hither turned into a story, and I don't necessarily expect y'all (or anyone else) to read it all. Since it did, though, I figured I may equally well go out it, rather than delete it. Apparently, for some of us with that "writer gene", once the give-and-take/thought valve gets opened things can turn into stories without planning them. :)

I think I'grand mostly an optimistic thinker, mostly because I'grand someone who by and large feels capable of managing problems and having some control over what direction a lot of the "self-based" (equally opposed to those "out-of-anyone's-command") things take. Thinking is different, perhaps, from what we are "at the cadre" or by Nature, but I think, at the core, I generally remain "neutral" and let my thinking exist the guide.

I generally haven't lived my life getting that vague sense that something bad will happen, but I'm a big one for being overcome with "acute" worry about a specific, isolated, matter. For example, the nighttime my daughter headed on an ordinarily hour-long highway trip in an ice storm that closed nigh highways and had even police staying off them, I was a complete "nervious, basketcase", admittedly convinced in that location would be a disaster. I had to remind myself most of the fourth dimension things plow out OK, and in that instance my fear was unfounded. I don't think, though, my common-sense worry was unfounded. Those isolated, for-the-moment, senses that something bad will happen are pretty my "the story of my life" since I've been a mother (specially of grown kids).

For me, the most memorable fourth dimension I had the vague sense that someone bad would happen involved my girlfriend's ownership a Volkswagon convertible. The day she called to tell me she'd bought this "adorable" car I got this awful, pit-of-the-stomach, feeling. I thought I was over concerns about what I saw every bit "expiry trap" car, but for the whole time she had that car I merely had a really vague sense that "something big and bad was looming". It wasn't annihilation I was actually thinking nigh "on an intellectual level". In fact, the merely fashion I'thou enlightened that information technology was there was by knowing the departure of how I felt before and subsequently I had that feeling. That's how subtle and "deep" it was.

I think what I must have done was process the conscious concerns "intellectually" and, maybe, "tuck them away in some "deep, mental, file". I think when I'd processed those concerns about the car it wasn't just the size of the car or the fact that the engine was in the rear. I knew my friend wasn't a driver who seemed to react quickly or be able to deal with more one thing at a fourth dimension when driving. She was a careful and generally skilful driver (never a speeder), but if she did something like change radio punch she'd briefly let the steering wheel slip ever-so-slightly until she finished turning the dial and got the car back directly.

I never said annihilation to her about my conscious concerns, merely I'd find excuses to exist the one who drove pretty much whenever nosotros went out. Life went on, and I thought I had the worry nigh the machine'southward size candy; with the matter of my not being comfortable with information technology beingness sort of dealt with. Still, I had a "cloud" over what had previous been a sense of feeling carefree, and that deject was such a vague sense that something was looming (but I didn't know what it was), it seemed completely separate from the witting concerns about the machine's size.

One night when we were planning to get out my friend called and announced firmly, and as if she'd decided to finally accept charge of the fact that I'd so often managed to make sure I was the commuter, "I'm driving. You always bulldoze." We had never talked near that, and if nosotros had I may have tried to overcome my concerns at least once in awhile. In whatever case, I suddenly realized it had been bothering her, and I knew she was right that information technology was just reasonable she expect to be the commuter more oft than she'd been. So, it wasn't so much her obviously planned "compactness" that made me just concur she drive that nighttime. It was my sudden awareness that she had been bothered my usually being the commuter, and my sense of fairness. That night I wished she knew that, because I wished she'd known if she'd simply talked about it I would have found a style to overcome my concerns and accept things more off-white in her optics. I'd always thought, since I had more money than she did, she was happy not to spend on gas.

That whole evening was a bad night. Places we tried to find we couldn't. Places we decided to go instead were closed or crowded - that blazon of affair. We weren't arguing or anything like that. We agreed that null was working out and were trying to think of the side by side affair to practice. Secretly, that vague sense I'd had about something looming seemed to peaking that nighttime, and I just wanted to become home. It was a dark, common cold, March, night. The Volkswagon didn't have much of heater. Maybe that contributed to the overall sense of that "deject looming". I'd been miserable, fed up, common cold or tired earlier, though, and this was like no feeling I'd ever had before (no thing how many things I may have had to have concerns/worries over).

Nosotros decided nosotros'd just become get a sandwich (because we hadn't eaten) before heading abode. We'd gone out around 8 and decided to get a sandwich by around 10:30.

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phoenixgbr on Baronial xvi, 2010:

Most of the fourth dimension its bound to happen. We remember when we recollect something bad is going to happen and it does. We don't call back the other 100 times when we feel something bad and nothing happens.

Just the homo heed making connections, looking for patterns etc. Completely natural every bit opposed to supernatural.

Eiddwen from Wales on August 16, 2010:

I tin can't say that I accept always had a feeling that something bad is going to happen. I remember I'grand too much of an optimism to let myself to dwell on that side of living. However I have followed my gut instinct whenever I'due east had a bad patch to struggle through and at the end of the struggle I have come trumps. I thoroughly enjoyed your hub.

Thanks.

Jorge Vamos on June 07, 2010:

Yes, usually I notice when people have a "bad feeling about this" that they tin't place, it'southward based on a real fear and paranoia from actual things that might have happened in the by and doesn't seem too magical to me.

nikki1 on May 18, 2010:

Nicely done :D

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on April 05, 2010:

rex, thanks - and thanks for the challenging questions. I'm sorry I don't have an answer to them, though.

This Hub focuses primarily on those times when people feel they "become some message" (or than through the usual "Earthly means") but when it isn't annihilation more than our own anxiety or sensation that something is going on with someone (or ourselves) that is likely to pb to trouble.

Generally, I'm non qualified to explain what doesn't appear to accept an "Earthly" explanation. I suppose the two-week thing could exist a coincidence and/or that because it's something memorable you remember those coincidences more than than other, less meaningful, ones. I had a girlfriend (for 40 years of then), and we would be amazed at how we wouldn't talk for a long, long, time; and when ane would call the other it would turn out some big thing was going on in the other's life. Nosotros saw it as some kind of "ESP", but and then, too, there's the chance that it was a matter of odds. If you don't talk to someone long enough it'southward probable some big matter will accept happened (and if it was a big, bad, enough matter the person would nonetheless be dealing with it inside x number of years from the time it occurred).

Every bit for the goosebumps things, the only "Earthly" guess I'd have almost that might be similar - you may remember the goosebumps when something happens, just forget/disregard those times when you get them and know information technology's simply considering you're cold. I'm not saying that's all it is; and equally I said, I have no real caption. I exercise know some people seem more than prone to looking for signs of "non-Earthly messages" and may place more significance on some of the smaller things that seem to happen. (I'grand not suggesting you're one of them, by any means, because, as I said, I'm not qualified to know whether "not-Earthly" messages really are sent/received at all. I do know that some people are more "tuned in" than others, and so I don't retrieve anyone can dominion out the thought that "non-Earthly" things take place. Where, and whether, being "more tuned in" crosses from "just being more than tuned in" to something paranormal I'grand not sure as well many people really know.

I do know that a whole lot of things that on surface seem "like something more" are oft easily explained.

I wish I had a better answer than this, but I just don't.

rex on Apr 04, 2010:

Hey I take a question. Just firstly overnice commodity I really enjoyed reading information technology. But I would like to know two things. Firstly: I sometimes have a feeling that something BAD is going to happen and exactly 2 weeks later something does happen simply information technology has ever happened like this since I was a child. And secondly: The feeling that when something happens to someone close to me I feel a frost on my body and goosebumps. Where does this come from? perchance you can aid me since I've been looking for answers to this for a long fourth dimension

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on March 18, 2010:

Adam80, thank you. I think you're probably right, non but about humans, but besides animals. In that location's a lot that's still non known about a lot of things.

I do retrieve, though, we have to be conscientious virtually "assigning" "picking-up" to what sometimes isn't. There are coincidences; simply a more glaring instance of "assigning picking-up" when there was cipher to pick up might be something like what I did the night my daughter broken down in the middle of a Wintertime nighttime on a highway. I know the potential risks were real, and it was reasonable to worry; but I started to get "creeped out" and start wondering if feeling and so "creeped out" was some kind of bad feeling beyond plain, old, worry. I took it from beingness concerned, to worrying, to imagining scenarios I was worried well-nigh, and on to wondering if I was doing more than imagining - and and so on to one, large, overall, creepy feeling that felt like it could be more than plain, one-time, worrying and feet.

When she arrived dwelling house safely it was clear that I wasn't picking up on anything - and only getting myself all creeped out with worry (for lack of a more polished way to describe it).

Adam80 from Omaha, Nebraska on March 18, 2010:

Not bad commodity!

I think people tin can pick up on things that aren't obvious and right on the surface. I know there take been times when weird things popular in my head for no reason and afterward on they are validated in real life. That is unlike than just worrying or knowing something is going to go incorrect becuase you have been neglegent.

For example the other day for no reason what and so ever a part of a movie came to heed. I went abode and not 2 hours afterward while flipping through the channel that office of that movie was on Goggle box!

Our brains piece of work with electrical impulses; merely like other electrical things they create fields and waves. I wouldn't be surprised that in 50 years they effigy out that some people are more expert at picking up on these waves and fields than other people.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on March 15, 2010:

Hummingbird5356, thank you. There accept been most iii times in my life when I haven't listened to that instinct - and each time the consequences were disastrous (really disastrous).

What tin can be tricky, though, is sorting out what'south "legitimate instinct" from what'south caused past anxiety.

I young woman I know was parking her car in a snowy city. Her young children were in the backseat, and her husband was with her. She said, for no reason she could pinpoint, she got a bad feeling about the parking space. Her husband reassured her information technology was fine, and she listened to him. A snowplow came and smashed into the back of the car. Her little children weren't injure, but she said she would never over again ignore her ain instinct. That kind of thing is a "legitimate instinct".

Then at that place was a thing I did when my father was hospitalized after a serious heart attack. I was going to the hospital to visit him each evening after piece of work. I was afraid he'd die (and in fact he later did), so I was a "nervous wreck". He was in that location for a month. Ane evening in bumper-to-bumper traffic and pelting my car stalled. I became overcome with the weird, horrible, feeling that he had died; and that I hadn't gotten to see him before he did. I was kind of panicked and knocked on some lady's door to ask if I could use her telephone (no cell phones at the time). Information technology turned out my father seemed to exist doing reasonably well, and that "feeling" I had that he had died was just a matter of being wacky because of anxiety and worry near him. At the time, I was so "sure" that my feeling was accurate and that he was already dead I didn't fifty-fifty consider that I might be wrong. In one case I learned I had been wrong, I was able to recognize the "feeling" for what it was.

The young woman in the machine (above) wasn't living in overall anxiety. Her feeling/instinct was associated with just the isolated circumstances surrounding the parking situation. In the situation with my stalled car, I had "expanded" way beyond the firsthand circumstances and potential consequences and pretty much imagined I had been hit with "some kind of ESP thing".

Since then, when I've had some of those "bad feelings" (which isn't very frequently), I've known to step back, inquire myself if information technology was the anxiety "talking", and terminate myself when it has been. Things have always turned out to be fine when that has happened.

Hummingbird5356 on March xiv, 2010:

Nosotros all accept an instinct if something is correct or incorrect. You should always listen to your instinct. It is usually right. This is what I always try to do. I have never made a error when I have washed so. An fantabulous hub.

Priscilla Chan from Normal, Illinois on March 14, 2010:

Lisa, it is and then true that we feel the vibes when something nearly to happen. Thanks for sharing the story with united states of america!

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on March 12, 2010:

Missi Darnell, I think information technology is possible to have all three.

I'1000 guessing there's a expert adventure someone with all three things going on at the same time for too long may exist someone who tends to lean toward being anxious all the time. Too, 1 sign of depression tin exist a "sense of impending doom.

Still, even for someone who wouldn't otherwise be anxious; it would exist possible for all three of the above circumstances to "alloy together" and create the "right mix" of feet.

Missi Darnell from Southern California on March 12, 2010:

Good commodity, is it possible to have all three?

privateye2500 from Canada, USA, London on March 04, 2010:

"Suffering" is OPTIONAL.

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on February 26, 2010:

bonny2010, thank you. I practise recollect information technology'south important for people to pick up on some of the "signals".

bonny2010 on Feb 26, 2010:

I believe we invite problems if nosotros ignore the modest signs which we do when we are in a hurry - this theory has born fruit time and time over again for me. I enjoyed your hub and similar what yous write about - thanks

nora2biz from Bratislava on January 25, 2010:

The sixth sense is so important. We all have it, but many times we do not use it, because nosotros are so self conscious. It takes fourth dimension to awaken it.

Gemynii from Texas on Dec sixteen, 2009:

I can truly identify with this hub. Cheers for sharing! Neat slice of writing.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on September 05, 2009:

rebekahELLE, thank you for sharing this.

rebekahELLE from Tampa Bay on September 05, 2009:

Some other great volume about intuition is, The Gift of Fearfulness, by Gavin de Becker. It is full of very insightful information and ways to aid united states tune in to our intuition. The root word for intuition means "to guard, protect." It is a fascinating read and a 'must read' for whatever woman, peculiarly a single woman.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on September 03, 2009:

Nisha shan, thank you. I agree that worrying nigh a problem won't solve it; although in that location is the kind of worrying that can lead to constructive preventing or fixing of a problem in some cases. Other times, when there'southward nothing nosotros can do nigh something, worrying simply makes information technology worse.

Nisha shan on September 03, 2009:

It is an excellent blog. Because worrying about a problem is not going to solve it. It is better to prepare for it. Nice weblog and very informative.

Lisa HW (writer) from Massachusetts on July 08, 2009:

wendy_isaiah, thanks. Maybe you're right.

wendy_isaiah on July 08, 2009:

I retrieve what you went through are called mother instincts. I felt and dreamt I was having a male child mode earlier I had a sonogram. Guess what when at 4 months when I went for the sonogram the nurse asked me if I wanted to know the sexual activity of the baby and I told her I know its a boy. She said yup your right.....

Tom Cornett from Ohio on June 03, 2009:

I never know what is coming ahead but I normally always feel it. Great hub hither...I definately chronicle to it. Thanks! :)

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on June 03, 2009:

Note to Anne, who e.mailed me:    Anne, I'm not someone who would exist able to make any guesses about what any of the things y'all mentioned may hateful, if, in fact, they mean anything at all.  I don't happen to be someone who believes in omens or signs, so I've never done any reading about things of that nature.

Based on what you wrote in the e.mail service, I tend to think yous may be broken-hearted well-nigh flying; and when people become anxious they tin can go to "thinking chilling".  There's at least a chance that you're kind of looking to make "omens" out of anything that relates to the flight date if y'all're anxious nigh it.  Again, though, I know I am not the person to know whether what yous've noticed means anything or doesn't.  Since I don't tend to believe in that kind of stuff, I desire to say it means zippo.  Who am I to say, though.....

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on May 03, 2009:

AEvans, countrywomen - cheers. I'm not sure it'south any particular souvenir; but the premie babe situation was, for me, I think the most "dramatic" and memorable of these "weird feelings". The other part of the story is that one day my married man only stayed dwelling from work for no apparent reason. We planned to go out for dinner, and I said, ""We have to get a motorcar seat for the babe. Perchance we could practice that besides." He agreed. The h2o broke in the restaurant, and we never got to get the auto seat (which maybe ways my "feelings" weren't quite every bit timely as they needed to be :) ).

countrywomen from Washington, U.s.a. on May 03, 2009:

1 of my cousins had a similar issue where the baby was upside downward (feet out first) and she felt information technology very early too. Sometimes heightened level of self awareness where we are completely in melody with our bodies (and mind) results in receiving those subtle signals. I have seen those who do certain yogic postures and breathing meditations have the ability to sense certain things. I bring together AEVANS in saying information technology is a gift which very few have. Thumbs up for a fantastic hub. :-)

Julianna from SomeWhere Out There on May 03, 2009:

Very clear caption , we all always seem to take those feelings at one fourth dimension or another and some believe we are nuts. You went with your feelings with your unborn child, and someone should have listened. What you have is a gift from God , and utilise information technology wisely. Thumbs upwardly Lisa!!!:)

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on May 01, 2009:

goldentoad, thanks. I think you're right about some people wanting to be prepared.

wittywriter, thanks.

wittywriter from Concord New Hampshire on May 01, 2009:

Wonderful article!

goldentoad from Gratis and running.... on May 01, 2009:

I recall some people believe they take to be prepared, not so much worried for the bad things that are just a part of life.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on May 01, 2009:

Amanda, thanks.  I'll look for it.

cindyvine, I tend to think that's true (although, of class, there are some women who do seem to exist completely without a shred of that kind of affair  :) ).  My sister and I have both observed that one time we had kids we started to just kind "always have our ears scanning even the smallest sounds/differences inside range" (like "ear radar" - if in that location could be such a thing  :)  ).   Once we got used to living in that "mode" nosotros've both discovered that we but stayed in, even after all the kids have grown.  We've both observed that it'southward similar, before kids, our ears were "simply regular" - and after kids, they're just always scanning, even without our thinking most information technology.   I can only presume information technology'due south a affair of a brain's getting practice taking in information in a certain manner and then never forgetting to operate that way.   We all do the aforementioned thing with subtle variations in things similar how the sunlight/heaven expect at different times of day.  I just think it'due south kind interesting how nosotros miss a lot of those things unless nosotros stop to think about them.

futonfraggle, cheers. (My kids absolutely loved "Fraggles" :) )

futonfraggle on May 01, 2009:

What a great hub that nosotros can all identify with.

Cindy Vine from Greatcoat Town on May 01, 2009:

They've always said women take better intuition than men

Amanda Severn from UK on May 01, 2009:

Lisa, you might enjoy Malcolm Gladwell's book 'Glimmer'. It's about intuition, and it'due south a rivetting read.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on May 01, 2009:

Amanda, thank you. I have a funny instance of what you mentioned. Years ago I was working at a visitor. I worked at that place for years, so I had just gotten kind of used to picking upwardly on how things went on. After a while, someone could just see "patterns" in how things went on. I worked with someone adequately closely, and for some reason I began "predicting" which of the "hot shots" would be the next go "daze the company" past getting (essentially) the heave-ho. My male person co-worker (often not every bit skilled every bit women at this kind of thing) was amazed at my accurate "predictions" - and he'd keep asking, "how exercise yous know?" I kept saying, "I don't know, I just do." I knew I had been "soaking in" barely perceptible clues/patterns; only that'south not something you tin hands explicate to someone else. He would joke that information technology was "spooky" (he was a scientist, and neither of us leaned toward assertive in the "spooky" for existent). For the most part, I'm non particularly skilled at that kind of thing in "general life", but I had worked there for and then long I simply knew it (the fashion mothers sometimes know their kids). (I should have gotten some betting thing going or something, instead of wasting my isolated " work-ESP skills" by sharing the data for free. :) ) In all seriousness, though, police experts exercise tell people to trust their intuition. Intuition can be and then weirdly accurate I tin see how people would confuse it with something "spookier". I've never known what to think well-nigh whether anyone is always truly psychic (across intuition), because I know I'm conspicuously not, then who am I to really say......

Amanda Severn from UK on May 01, 2009:

Dainty piece of work Lisa. In that location is a articulate distinction betwixt 'worry' and 'intuition'. As you suggest, intuition often comes from reading and understanding situations without being consciously enlightened that we are doing so. I've heard a lot about psychics who practise 'common cold reading' drawing clues from their clients reactions. I'thousand sure that there are those who are aware of using 'cold reading' and cynically tease their clients forth, but every bit I suspect at that place are those who read their clients reactions unknowingly and believe themselves to be the 18-carat commodity.

Cindy Vine from Cape Town on April 30, 2009:

Another splendid informative article.  Thanks for answering my request.

Lisa HW (author) from Massachusetts on April 30, 2009:

SEM Pro, my curt reply to your question (before you bother reading more here) is, "no, I don't actually accept suggestions"  :)

At that place'due south that "weird" feeling that something atrocious is going to happen, that'due south different from always worrying.   If I had a friend who was e'er talking about having that kind of sense (with no apparent reason for it) that something bad was going to happen, I recollect I'd mention that I had "heard" anxiety tin cause that kind of feeling and suggest he do a little research (in "legitimate" psychology/psychiatry sources) on that to help him sympathize his "spooky" feelings more.  I'd point out that information technology is well known that panic attacks can come with a sense of "impending doom" (every bit a quick way to signal out the well known connection between anxious feelings and "spooky" feelings), considering that may help guide the person in a good direction for his research.  If he were to look upwards a few things nigh how anxiety causes a sense of "unsettled-ness" in legitimate sources he would also read when a person may want to consider seeking professional help.   People who accept that "weird, spooky" feeling something bad will happen ofttimes do talk nearly it to others.

Being a "big worrier" can also come when someone is already stressed out/broken-hearted.   The sense of concern with "manifestly old, big worrying" is more than easy to understand because there is normally a real state of affairs over which someone will worry (rather than just getting that vague feeling).   I know if I'g stressed out/anxious over something "in general"; and and then 1 of my grown kids doesn't store upwardly when s/he said, I'thousand more than likely to call back something bad happened than if my twenty-four hour period has been normal (in which case I'grand more than likely to just assume they left late or stopped off somewhere).  Being a "big worrier" tin likewise come with just having a pessimistic view of life, and it come can with some of negative/hopeless feelings associated with low.

On the other hand, in the example I gave about the premature infant, people idea I was "only a worrier".  Sometimes the person who seems to worry too much does have some reason to worry and may know something more than about a situation than the "non-worrier" person does.  Some people worry quite a bit but know how to manage their worry well.  Others don't manage information technology well.

I have a friend who is (by anybody'south standards) a "ridiculous worrier".  His worries are not unfounded, and much of the time he's actually quite right to exist concerned.  Most of the fourth dimension, though, he is unskilled at managing his own worries.  I've known him for a long time, and he's e'er been like he is.  Sometimes we volition occasionally even joke a piffling almost his nature.

I don't think I'd always advise someone seek professional help unless the person were complaining about how his worrying was making his life miserable.  In my opinion, my friend worries too much.  In his opinion, I may not be "sufficiently aware of the reasons he sees for worrying".   At the same time, I take a friend or 2 who sees me equally besides much of a worrier; while I come across them as "being a little besides cavalier about some things".  Unless my extreme-worrier friend were to start complaining about his own worrying, I only get out him to his ain personality/thinking and accept him as he is.  There are times when I will point out some of my own reasoning for either non worrying or for "having to put it out of my caput"; and I think sometimes he may see that what I say makes some sense.

SEM Pro from N America on April xxx, 2009:

I similar it Lisa! Intuitive awareness is awesome and yous're and then right - stress and a worrying attitude tin interfere. I know someone who lives in worry 24/vii just suggesting they seek professional assistance would simply destroy the friendship - any ideas?

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